Dear reader of TMG, I’m Vicky, I’ve been practice tantra and provide tantric massage for last 10 years. Today I’d like to share you my knowledge about tantric massage and my personal tantric procedure…
My type of massage can be experienced on your own. As something wonderful that makes you feel as reborn and totally relaxed. A moment for you where time stops to let you indulge in total bliss.
But it can also function at the therapeutic level. When, for instance partners experience difficulties connecting emotionally within their sexual relationship, my massage therapy can help and have a healing and teaching effect.
Another frequently occurring problem that I can help to overcome is premature ejaculation.
If you experience any of these problems or have other issues that you would like to discuss with me please let me know when you make a booking so I can reserve the time for this. There is also the possibility to visit me as a couple. Taking a session as a couple can have a deep and profound healing effect. In a total confidential and safe environment you can both let go of your emotions and sexual feelings and discover together with me a new path leading to a more mature and satisfying sexual relationship between the two of you. The idea of the teachings is to use it! So what is better than to please your partner with newly learned techniques, either at home or during the session under my guidance.
That is why I like to give you an example of how a partner massage can be performed. For this example I used the scenario whereby the female partner massages the male partner. So in this case the male is the Receiver and the female is the Giver.
The Receiver will lie down on his back with a pillow under his head so he can look up at the Giver. His legs are to be spread apart with his knees slightly bent and his genitals will be clearly exposed for the massage.
The Giver will sit cross-legged between his legs or she will sit next to him. That varies.
Before starting the massage you both can practise deep, relaxed breathing and eye gazing. This is optional. You don’t have to. Whatever makes you comfortable. But it helps in order to relax and to connect.
The Giver will start gently massaging his legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, etc., to get him to relax. If necessary remind him to breathe deeply as to sink deeper into relaxation.
Next pour a small quantity of high-quality oil on the shaft of his Lingam (Penis) and testicles. Begin gently massaging his testicles, taking care not to cause pain in this sensitive area. And massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Next massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the Perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take your time giving a massage to an often neglected area of his body.
Massage the shaft of his Lingam. Vary the speed and pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam at the base with your right hand, pull up and slide off and then alternate with your left hand. Again take your time doing this, right, left, right, left, etc. Then, change the direction by starting the squeeze at the head of his Lingam and then sliding down and off. Again, alternate with your right and left hands.
Caress and massage the head of his Lingam as if using an orange press. Massage all around the head and shaft. In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam that correspond to other parts of the body. It is said many ailments can be cured by receiving a good Lingam Massage. His Lingam may or may not go soft while performing this technique. Do not worry if it doesn’t get hard again.
You will probably find that it will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc., which is a highly desirable Tantric experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down.
Hardness and Softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.
If it appears that he is going to ejaculate just back off, allowing the Lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. Do this several times, letting him come close to ejaculation, and then backing off. Remember, the goal is not orgasm itself. Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control by coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is important here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually ejaculatory mastery control will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen.
Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that men can learn to separate. The result is a much expanded sex life.
FIND AND MASSAGE THE MALE SACRED SPOT:
The first part of the Prostate Massage consists of outside stimulation. There are many nerve endings around your anus that give very pleasurable sensations. Allow the outside area of the anus to relax before entering.
Then very gentle insert a finger and look for the second part of the anus that needs to relax before you can go deeper inside. Once you can go deeper start looking for his “Male G Spot”. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea or maybe a bit larger about 2 two inches deep. Start stimulating it with beckoning and circular movements. Eventually, as this area is worked on more often and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory control. A nice technique is to massage his Lingam with your right hand and massage his Sacred Spot with your left hand. Massaging this spot when he nears ejaculation will lead to a very deep and memorable orgasm and ejaculation. The male G-Spot is aptly named the Million Dollar Point in Taoism.
Sometimes men may experience strong emotions during access to the Sacred Spot. They may cry and remember a traumatic event from their past. You, the giver, are in a place of trust and intimacy. Allow him to feel his emotions and be very loving. Let him feel whatever he needs to. Encourage him to scream, cry, moan, sob, if it feels appropriate. Be the best friend and healer he could have in that moment.
ENDING OF TANTRIC MASSAGE:
If he chooses to let go and ejaculate, encourage him to breathe deeply during his orgasm and subsequent ejaculation. It will blow his mind, especially if he came close and held back several times. Holding back several times before ejaculating, charges up the sexual battery with a tremendous amount of energy. It is then his choice as to where he wants to send his energy: “Outward” by ejaculating (The prevailing paradigm) or “Inward” resulting in a so called “Dry Orgasm”. Men who master ejaculation are able to channel this energy into other areas of their being. A new dimension of sexuality might become his…and yours….